What objectively leads to success and what is subjective
opinion regarding success? There’s a lot of contradictory information out there
and much of it is purely subjective. Someone might have experienced a bit of
success and he might start to think that just because he got successful, he thinks
he can attract success every time. He thinks he can teach others how to attract
success and starts to write books about it, sharing so called success
principles, or success tools, or success strategies or paths to success! But
actually these tactics work just for him, in his context, in his situation and
help nobody else. They’re subjective success criteria that are not universal. Universal
principles of success are those that work for anyone, anywhere at any time.
Let’s look at some contradictory beliefs out there which are
subjective beliefs and not objective realities about how to use the law
of attraction to be successful in life. Some might say to find success, you
need to find what delights you, while others might opine that to find success,
you need to find what delights your customers and do that instead. Still others
might say that to find success, you need to lead a life with no commitments—no
spouse, no children, no family—that way you’ll find plenty of time for yourself
and be able to do what you really want to do. There will be those who say that
on the contrary, having a spouse, children and large family will fill your life
with love and compassion, and inspire you to do greater things.
Some others are focused on just hard work and believe that
the only way to attract success is to keep working harder and harder;
everything else is but a dream. Those who contradict them believe that if you
only focus on work, you won’t be able to recognize the gifts that the universe
has in store for you; so do less, work less, and receive more. Many people are
apt to believe that if you gain recognition and fame and are widely known, that
amounts to success. There are their counterparts who believe success is an
inner state of happiness and has nothing to do with external fortune, fame or
acknowledgement—that is the path of downfall, don’t pay attention to it.
Thus there are loads of contradictory opinions as to what
constitutes success? Which of these is true? The truth is none. All of these
are subjective beliefs. For example, in the last example, inner happiness and
outward recognition is not really a dichotomy—you can have both. That’s the
beauty of the law of attraction.
Spoken with enough authority, any of the above statements
can be projected as true or false. However, they are just beliefs. Beliefs are
thought forms you emanate that influence your perception and ultimately the
reality you attract. The examples given here depend on context and preference.
Universal ways of attracting success are not dependent on context or
preference. Neither are they dependent on a guide, mentor or life coach. A good success
coach can give you the tools to achieve success but he or she will leave it
to you to decide what you deem successful. It is not up to your success coach
to decide what kind of relationship you should have or what kind of job you do.
Instead, it’s their task to help you enter a relationship or career of your
choosing. It is yours to dream and it is your success coach’s to apply the
principles of attraction to help you fulfil that dream.
So what is success universally speaking? Success is
something that was willed and then came true. In other words, success is a goal
that was set and then achieved. It is as simple as any other universal truth.
The opposite of that is failure, which means there was a
goal which was not reached. Humans instinctively try to achieve success and
avoid failure. It’s an inherent characteristic of human beings. This
characteristic may be hidden in some people, but it is there.
If you want to avoid failure, then you will also have to
avoid success. Why? Because having a goal implies that it will either result in
success or in failure. The most successful people are those who have failed the
most. An inventor fails a thousand times before he invents something. A
sportsman misses the mark a thousand times before he hits it. So if you want to
be successful in life, you better get comfortable with its duality—failure.
Once you get comfortable with failure, you won’t mind setting goals again and
again, which increases your chances of getting more success. Success is not
“avoiding” failure, it is “overcoming” failure.
This technique is very aptly taught in Fred Dodson’s Reality
Creation Super Course. The analogy he uses is that the moment you decide to
climb a mountain, the rocks on that mountain become obstacles. Till then, the
rocks are not obstacles. They are not even worth noticing. If you experience
obstacles in life, it’s actually a good sign—a sign that you are going
somewhere. So don’t be shy of adversity or effort. Embrace effort and you
transcend adversity.
